No. The answer is no.

It's been almost a year since my niece has been born. Right out of the hospital, she came to stay with my family for a few months before being moved back closer to her parents home.  During that time period, my own family was dealing with O coming into our lives & just getting settled emotionally with all things surrounding that.  During the process of having my niece move in for a few months, my husband spread the word to some family.  One of the comments made at that time was "I bet Lela is happy!"  At the time, I didn't have time to really think about their comment-didn't have time to really process it & give them an "answer".  But Miss S has moved out and is since been reunited with her parents, so I want to answer the question/or comment on that statement once and for all.

The answer is no.  No I wasn't happy that my darling little precious niece was taken away from her parents at birth.  No I was not happy seeing my sister & her husband in pain having their newly born daughter fostered over an hour away from them.  No I was not happy that I had to leave my job on medical leave for three months.  No, I was not happy that I had to get up 3-4 times a night with an infant I wasn't ready to take care of 24/7 in the aftermath of having O every weekend.  No I was not happy that I had to miss a significant chunk of my boys playing ball due to the situation.  No I was not happy having strangers poking their noses into my life.

The answer is yes.  Yes I am happy that my darling little precious niece was able to stay with us for a few months.  Yes I am happy that I have a job understanding enough to allow me to take paid medical leave.  Yes I am happy that I had enough sick leave to cover this time out.  Yes I am happy that she was a great baby & didn't really have any issues.  Yes I am happy that she has been reunited with her loving parents.  Yes I am happy that I was not to old to be able to get up 3-4 times a night and still some what function during the day.

Now having said that, I want to say also that I am very insulted still that you would smugly say something so heartless-not just towards me but towards my sister.  How could you possibly feel that something like that would make anyone happy!?  Did you feel like I was desperate for a "child" of my own & I saw this as an opportunity for Billy & I to "have" a child of "our own"?   Let me clear that up as well while I am at it, no.  No I didn't feel that Miss S was brought into our lives to be "our" child.  We didn't take her on to raise, we simply took her into our home, as my niece, to take care of until she was reunited with her parents.  We never for a second thought she would be "adopted".  Just to be perfectly clear-WE NEVER THOUGHT WE WOULD BE ADOPTING MISS S.  Or did you simply feel that having Miss S live with us for a short period of time would sidetrack me from the O situation?  Trust me, I was busy taking care of the tiny female-but still had time to think about the giant one that is associated with O and we'll just leave it at that. lol.

In closing, I will never ask this person why they said what they said, but I feel comfortable with finally being able to give them an answer, even if it isn't to them directly.  It's out there in the universe now.

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  1. Anyone that knows you Lela would not think that you were happy about that situation. I think that they simply do not know you. So you can a. let them get to know the real you or b. right them off. Either way, it should be no skin off your nose. You are an amazing person and everyone that knows you knows that. Hugs.

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  2. Kris and i will always be grateful that you stepped in to make sure Savannah was taken care of during our greatest time of need. You safe the best #1 sister anyone could every have!

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